The sin of the golden calf was the fact that the Jews gave a divine strength to something they had formed on their own without being told by Hashem. The power of being able to wait, accept, and listen is a positive definition of humility which women possess. The women refused to give their jewelry for the golden calf but happily and eagerly gave for the building of the mishkan (temple). By following the exact instructions from Hashem and allowing His presence to come down and rest, the Jews were able to make the Mishkan. The absence of that is what creates the golden calf.